Pumping can be a game changer! Learn how to store your milk, introduce a bottle, manage your supply, and more.
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While pumping has many benefits, there's also a learning curve. On top of that, your breasts are constantly changing—in size and shape, as well as in the types and volumes of milk they produce.
The good news is that most pumping problems are fairly straightforward to troubleshoot. Implementing a few key tips to optimize your time with your pump can go a long way. That’s why we’ve pulled together a collection of articles all about pumping.
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We say it in our guide about breast care, and we’ll say it again here: There are many “right” ways to be a parent, including how—and how much—you feed your baby. In consultation with your provider, you can define success for yourself and your baby, and feel good knowing that you’re doing the best you can.
And now for the nitty-gritty on pumping.
Breastfeeding can benefit you and your baby in many ways. And pumping has many overlapping, supporting, and even additional benefits.
Pumps are, quite literally, a tool that can support your breastfeeding journey alongside your baby’s development. There are many reasons you may want—or need—to use one. Pumping can enable you to achieve a wide range of targets, including:
maintaining your supply while feeding your baby breast milk when you’re apart
Pumping can seem a bit mystifying at first. You can get started by learning what types of pumps are available, as well as explore the most essential accessories to help you pump at home, at work, and on the go. We’ve also pulled together 10 questions to ask your insurance provider to help you navigate getting as much coverage of your pump parts and lactation support as possible.
Once you have your pump(s), we suggest setting up an ideal pumping environment and following these handy steps for making sure that your flange fits, because getting the right flange size goes a long way toward pumping comfortably and efficiently.
Get to know your Willow Go and Willow 360 pumps, and learn about maximizing your comfort and output.
We also break down the main steps of a pumping session, plus when and how to clean versus sterilize your pump parts, how to safely store your breast milk and when, if ever, you should pump and dump.
As you begin to develop a routine and feel like you know what you’re doing—and maybe start to notice patterns or habits—you can fine-tune your pumping experience. This includes pumping efficiently, managing your supply, troubleshooting various issues along the way, and improving your mind-body connection.
There will be times when you have limited control. To help navigate these, we’ve pulled together a primer on introducing and using a bottle, ways to go about pumping in public, and what to know about your travel rights as a breastfeeding parent.
Once you feel yourself blossoming into a pumping queen—or, hey, just feel like you’re starting to get the gist of things—check out our guidance on developing a pumping schedule based on your circumstances.
And if you feel like you need any lactation support for pumping or breastfeeding or both, don’t hesitate to ask for it. The sooner you get the help you need, the better.
And there you go! If we could give you a pumping 101 graduation cap (or even better, a crown), we would. Just getting started is a lot, especially while juggling life with your baby—and for some of you, multiple babies, with siblings in the mix.
When it comes to wearable pumps, size really matters. Wearables aren’t one-size-fits-all, and if you’ve used a traditional pump, you may find that flange fits aren’t consistent between the two. Plus, having a flange that fits is critical for performance (that’s right, size impacts output!) and comfort.
A flange is a cone-shaped funnel, typically ending in a tunnel, that seals over your nipple and breast and creates a vacuum to transmit milk. Sizes are based on the diameter (or width) of your nipple (not your areola, which is a common misconception!).
For moms who measure smaller than 21mm, breast pump sizing inserts, made of flexible silicone, optimize comfort and output. (It’s a way to get a more custom-feeling fit!) Willow inserts are designed to fit into a 24mm flange and are available in sizes 13mm, 15mm, 17mm, 19mm and 21mm.
Based on years of sizing data (more than 300k women have pumped with Willow!), we know that most moms find the best fit using a 17mm or 19mm insert.
A poorly-fitting flange can impact stimulation, which can then affect the hormonal rush of oxytocin that triggers letdown and milk production, and decrease output in turn.
If your flange is too large, you’ll have less pressure on the alveoli and less stimulation overall, which can result in insufficient emptying. (And when you leave milk behind, you may decrease your supply.) If your flange is too small, your nipple may rub against the tunnel, causing discomfort, pain, and compressed milk ducts that restrict emptying.
“Oxytocin is blocked by pain and fear,” pediatrician Dr. Laurie Jones says. “If your flanges don't fit well, and your brain knows it, that limits how soon the oxytocin is released, how much is released, and whether there will be second and third bursts of oxytocin as you pump. The fit is important to be pain-free, fear-free, and dread-free.”
Aside from nipple size, finding the right fit also depends on your skin elasticity and breast tissue sensitivity. Once you know what flange or insert might be right for you based on your measurements, don’t be afraid of experimenting. You may find that using a flange or insert a size above or below your measured size is more comfortable and effective.
First and foremost, you should measure anytime you feel any discomfort when pumping, or experience a sudden change in output. Remember to always measure both nipples — no two breasts are the same (even if they’re both yours!), and they may change in size throughout your breastfeeding journey.
We also recommend you re-measure before you order replacement accessories to ensure your size is still correct.
Your nipples will undergo a series of changes in both shape and size as you shift from pregnancy to establishing breastfeeding to reaching a steady state. It’s normal to need a different flange size a few times before you finish your pumping journey, so be prepared to measure a few times—and possibly swap out your flanges or inserts each time.
If you’re still pregnant and want to get an idea of your flange size, the ideal time to do so is before your sixth month of pregnancy. After that, they may actually be larger than they’ll be during most of your pumping and breastfeeding journey.
If you’ve purchased your flanges during pregnancy, you’ll want to measure them again once you start pumping — ideally before you pump or at least an hour after you’ve finished. If you’re sized in the hospital, this is the stage when your nipples are likely at their largest, so you should resize again in a few weeks — ideally around six to eight weeks postpartum.
In summary? You can measure your nipples when you’re pregnant — just remember to do it before the six-month mark. If you’re sized at the hospital, take your measurements again after 6-8 weeks (you should have reached a “steady state” at this point), as it’s possible your nipples may be smaller than they were right after giving birth. After that, measure any time you notice pain, discomfort, or a change in supply.
The good news is that it’s easy to measure yourself at home. We recommend sizing with Willow's cut-out nipple sizing tool, or printing it out if you don't have a copy handy. Alternatives include using a cloth measuring tape or ruler (physical or digital works!).
Measure the diameter of your nipple from where it meets the areola on one side to the other. This ensures that the flange—a cone-shaped funnel—seals over your nipple, creating a vacuum to extract milk.
Stimulate, then measure each nipple at least an hour after pumping or breastfeeding, when they are their typical sizes. You can use Willow’s sizing guide.
After measuring the width of your nipple, find your size. If you’re pumping with Willow Go, add 1-3mm to your nipple measurement. If pumping with Willow 360, add 0-2mm. (You’ll need a more snug fit!)
Every nipple is unique—in size, shape, elasticity, and stimulation to trigger letdown. You might have an inverted nipple, extra nipples, or scarring. A lactation consultant can answer questions about yours.
If the fit seems off, try using an insert. You may benefit from the Willow Perfect Fit Bundle. Willow 360 pumpers can book 1:1 time with a Willow Mom Coach for sizing support.
Center your nipple in the flange, and start pumping. You should feel pulling, not pinching. If your nipple rubs against the side, it’s likely too small. If you don’t feel pressure, it’s likely too big.
Willow users who need a fit smaller than 21mm can get an insert to fit the 24mm flange.
When it comes to wearables, you’ll need a fit that’s more snug than what you might be used to with a traditional pump. Most moms find that adding 1-3mm to their measured nipple size (or 0-2mm if you’re pumping with the Willow 360) results in optimal output and comfort. After measuring the width of your nipple, use this handy sizing chart to find your size.
Center your nipple in the flange, and start pumping. You should feel pulling, not pinching. If your nipple rubs against the side, it’s likely too small. If you don’t feel suction, it’s likely too big.
A breast pump is a tool. So it follows that there are ways to both optimize it for your experience, as well as troubleshoot any issues that may cause discomfort or impact supply.
If you’re new to wearable pumps, it can take a little time to adjust to your Willow Go or 360 pump to get the output you want, comfortably.
To make sure you’re pumping effectively (removing all you can) and efficiently (doing it quickly), check your flange size. If it’s too big, it likely won’t hurt you, but also won’t stimulate your breasts as much as ideal. This can mean that you won’t completely empty your breasts, which in turn can impact your supply.
Also do your best to pump in a calm environment, as this can lower your heart rate and help promote milk letdowns.
“Take deep breaths, drink water, bring your knees to your chest, or try a little meditation,” says pediatrician Dr. Laurie Jones. “It’s worth taking the time to get into a good mind-set to speed up your pumping.”
One of the most common worries among those who pump is that their milk production is lower than needed. Often, those worries are unfounded. So double-check your expectations,1 doing your best to avoid comparing your output with guidance for formula volumes. What you perceive as low supply may actually be totally sufficient for your baby!
That said, one of the best tools for growing your supply is to maximize direct breastfeeding.
Schedule a virtual visit with a SimpliFed lactation consultant for ongoing breastfeeding and baby feeding support starting as early as pregnancy to help you prepare. It’s covered by most health plans.
“Milk production is based on milk removals,” Dr. Jones says. “You might feel like pumping is going well, but if you're leaving a fair percentage of milk in your breast every time by, say, not pumping long enough or not getting enough letdowns, your production will respond accordingly and drop.
There are, of course, medical causes of low supply as well, ranging from chest surgeries and retained placenta to prematurity and tongue tie. Seek help from a credentialed lactation specialist, if you suspect that your supply isn’t meeting your baby’s needs—and the sooner the better.
If you’re developing a milk stash, on the other hand, this is a sign that you might be pumping more milk than your baby needs. It’s up to you whether you keep pumping at your current rate—there’s nothing wrong with a little backup!—or dial it back a bit to adjust to your baby’s needs and avoid overproduction.
Many people are surprised to learn that most pumping sessions should actually involve two to three letdowns to remove as much milk as possible. When breastfeeding, you might not notice your baby stimulating sequential letdowns. But when pumping, as your flow slows, you might have to manually change the setting back to letdown mode.
To help stimulate letdown, most pumps make short, quick pulls. Within a few seconds to a minute, your milk should go from drips and drizzles (your letdown) to more powerful sprays of milk (extraction). When the stream slows to a trickle, you can try for a third letdown.
Just as with direct breastfeeding, it’s entirely possible that you’re having multiple letdowns without changing your settings or noticing them. But if you’re concerned about low supply, inducing subsequent letdowns is an area you can focus on.
If you’re experiencing any discomfort when you pump, the first thing to troubleshoot is your flange size. Getting the right size is actually a big deal! If your nipples are sore, this could be a sign that your flange is too small, causing rubbing against the flange tunnel and constriction of your milk ducts.
If your milk flows fine when your baby is breastfeeding directly, but not when you’re trying to pump, you may have what Dr. Jones calls “smart boob syndrome.” This is when your breasts know your pump is not a baby—and stages a temporary strike.
To troubleshoot this, you can focus on your mind-body connection by doing things like setting up a calm environment, smelling your baby’s onesie, watching videos of your baby, and listening to relaxing music. Dr. Jones says you could even try habituating yourself to a sound or smell when you’re direct breastfeeding, and see if that helps your milk flow when you pump.
If you’re not sure whether this is what’s going on, have your baby nurse on one breast while your pump on the other; if your milk flows, it’s a sure sign that your boobs are too smart for their own good.
Pumping has a serious learning curve. You might feel like something is off but have no idea what it is—or try all these troubleshooting techniques and still have issues with pain or supply. Timing can be critical, so try to schedule a visit with an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant as soon as possible.
Get virtual, ongoing breastfeeding and baby feeding support starting as early as pregnancy to help you prepare. It’s covered by most health plans.
One of the most common questions in any breastfeeding journey is how to know if you’re making enough milk. When it comes to pumping, there’s no universal guidance to ensure that you’re pumping the right amount of milk, because there are so many variables. These include how old your baby is, whether and how long you are away from your baby, and what your feeding goals are.
Whatever your situation, remember that feeding your baby is a marathon, not a sprint. Aim to find a feeding system that feels simple, sustainable, and adaptable. This will help increase the likelihood that your baby will get breast milk for a longer duration (which brings many health benefits1) and minimize your own potential challenges and setbacks, both physical and emotional.
Once you understand your baby’s nutritional needs, including how to monitor feeding cues, you’ll be better equipped to maintain your supply while away from your baby. This will help you avoid producing too much—or too little—milk for your baby
In order to grow, all breastfed infants need between 24 and 30 ounces of milk a day between the ages of 1 and 6 months, according to pediatrician Dr. Laurie Jones, founder of Dr. MILK (Mothers Interested in Lactation Knowledge). That volume then shifts down gradually to 18 to 24 ounces a day between the ages of 6 to 12 months, in part because they’re adding solids to their diet. (Formula-fed infants need greater volumes because they metabolize formula differently.)
The number of pumping sessions you need to meet your infant’s nutritional requirements depends on two things: how much milk your breasts can physiologically store (which you cannot control), and how much milk you pump per session (which, to an extent, you can control).
It can be helpful to base your own pumping schedule on a friend's.
Your breast storage capacity, for what it’s worth, has little to nothing to do with the size of your breasts. It simply means that the more milk your breasts can store, the fewer times you need to remove milk from them—by breastfeeding or pumping—to get the same volume. Conversely, the less milk they can store, the more frequently you’ll need to remove milk from them to keep up your supply. To get a sense of how many ounces of milk your baby is getting each day, you can multiply the amount of milk you’re able to pump each session by the number of pumping and direct-breastfeeding sessions you have in a 24-hour period. (You can learn more about this partnered dance of supply and demand in our article on understanding your supply.)
If you’re exclusively breastfeeding on demand, which Dr. Jones says is ideal for establishing your supply over the first four to six weeks of your baby’s life, the process should naturally match your supply with your baby’s needs. That’s because your baby’s suckling tells your breasts how much milk to produce.
When you pump, it’s helpful to bear in mind the above equation (pumped ounces per session times number of daily pumping or feeding sessions). You’ll want to continue to remove milk at a consistent frequency, being careful to pump anytime your baby feeds from a bottle, fully emptying your breasts each time. (Fascinating side note: this includes stimulating multiple letdowns, something you might not notice when breastfeeding, as your baby suckles through lulls to stimulate subsequent bursts of milk.)
Apart from keeping this equation in mind, the best way to match your supply with your baby’s needs is to closely watch for feeding cues—including responding to cluster-feeding demands to ramp up your supply. Look for hunger cues (fist to mouth, opening and closing mouth, alertness) alongside satiation cues (turning head away, closing mouth, drowsiness).
Remember, too, that it’s OK, if things change, or if you need to break your routine. Regularly doing so can negatively impact your supply, but occasionally spending an afternoon away from your baby without an extra pumping session should not. (And if a super strict routine stresses you out, try to ease into a more relaxed, cues-based routine.)
Undersupply is a top concern among breastfeeding parents. When you’re pumping, the basic rule of thumb is to pump every time your baby gets a bottle. And because your supply will start to drop, if you regularly go too long between breastfeeding or pumping sessions, this means you might need to re-strategize how you approach your evenings to maintain your supply, as your baby begins to sleep for longer stretches.
If your milk is delayed, your supply isn’t well established, or your baby is underweight or too weak to breastfeed, a provider may also recommend triple feeding. This intensive, temporary process involves breastfeeding, then pumping, then bottle-feeding every two hours throughout the daytime to increase your supply.
“You should have a lactation consultant and your baby's primary care doctor involved—and check your baby’s weight closely—to know how long to continue doing triple feeds,” Dr. Jones says. Because triple feeding is so demanding, she says, no one does it 24/7.
“We don’t want to dishearten people, but at a certain point, it’s best to help them accept where they are and move forward with that new reality,” Dr. Jones says. “It doesn’t mean you’re giving up breastfeeding. It means that your role might shift, and your baby might not get all their calories from breast milk. But if you combo feed with formula and breast milk, your baby still gets all the great benefits of breastfeeding.”
Because pumping stimulates production, pumping too often can lead to oversupply. And for all the concerns about producing enough milk to meet your baby’s nutritional and caloric needs, the issues associated with pumping more than you need to should not be overlooked.
Oversupply happens when your output is beyond what your baby needs (and drinks). This can put you at risk for engorgement, mastitis, and/or plugged ducts. You can feel a frequent uncomfortable fullness, which can cause you to continue pumping (to relieve pressure) more volume than your baby needs. The more often you do this, the more you’ll need to, because your supply corresponds with how often your breasts are stimulated and emptied.
This pumping-cycle trap is what Dr. Jones calls the “frozen-milk treadmill.” It involves more work for you and takes more time away from your baby. Worse, burnout resulting from too-frequent pumping sessions might make you less likely to reach your long-term feeding targets.
So what do you do if you find that you are experiencing frequent engorgement and stockpiling pumped milk in your freezer? “It’s time to work on gradually spacing out your pumping sessions,” Dr. Jones says. “Just remember: Feed the baby, not the freezer.”
There will be times when you’re away from your baby for a short period (for a hair appointment, for example) or for a full day (to attend a retreat) or even multiple days (to attend a work trip or wedding). So when should you pack your pump, and how frequently should you plan to use it?
Dr. Jones says a good rule of thumb is to pump if you’re going to be apart from your baby for longer than four hours. (If it’s less than or around that period, and your breasts feel full, you can always go to a bathroom stall and hand-express a little milk to relieve the pressure.)
“As long as you pump on a regular cadence when you’re away from your baby, you can keep your supply up,” Dr. Jones says. “If you’re planning to be away and want to build up a stash for your baby to use, you can pump off the end of each feed and after long stretches of infant sleep. Just don’t do this too often, or your body will think you have twins!”
Just as with pumping at home, you’ll want to continue to clean your parts, store your milk safely, and in certain situations, even pump and dump. You also may find it useful to think through how to pump in public, as well as familiarize yourself with your travel rights as a lactating parent.
Also bear in mind that although you can use your pump to help manage your supply, there are ways you can accidentally find yourself in a situation with unintended consequences. The most common scenario? Your baby begins to refuse the breast, resulting in you becoming an exclusive pumper. If you want to continue to direct breastfeed to some degree, there are ways you can help avoid exclusive pumping.
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You may be preparing to pump in myriad situations—from the office, during work hours, to at home, before an evening date with your partner. If you aren’t immediately bottle-feeding your freshly pumped breast milk to your baby, you’ll need to store it.
In general, “if it’s a very clean collection and storage method,” says Dr. Laurie Jones, a pediatrician, you may find it liberating to know that your freshly pumped milk is “good for eight hours on the counter and up to eight days in the fridge1.”
If you are on the go, and need to store breast milk until you get home, you can safely store the milk in a portable cooler or cooler bag with a frozen gel pack for up to 24 hours. If you don’t manage to feed it to your baby within that period, throw it out.
If you’re pumping multiple times a day at work, Dr. Jones says you can safely consolidate the pumped milk (freshly pumped milk with refrigerated milk from a pumping session earlier that day) into bags or bottles to feed your baby the next day.
To accommodate other needs, such as adding breast milk to baby cereal or other solids (once your baby is ready for solids, that is), try freezing some of the milk in an ice cube tray.
And if your baby doesn’t finish all the milk from a bottle feeding within a two-hour period—regardless of whether it’s been freshly pumped, refrigerated, or defrosted—you’ll need to discard the remaining milk.
Here’s a basic rundown of how to keep your pumped milk safe to feed your baby.
Wash your hands before and after pumping. Between each session, wash your pump parts in warm, soapy water and let dry completely. You can save time by keeping extra sets for your Willow Go and Willow 360 on hand. Just rinse after each use, and then batch clean and dry them once a day.
Pump directly into milk bags or pour your pumped milk into a cooler, glass bottles or plastic bags designed specifically to store breast milk. Willow's Portable Milk Cooler keeps up to 16 ounces of milk at a safe temperature for up to 24 hours.
If you use bags, label them with the date and number of ounces pumped, then store on the counter top, the refrigerator, or the freezer. (Let this handy CDC chart be your milk storage safety guide.)
Get the most out of what you pump by keeping it in serving sizes that make sense for your use. If you’ll be away from your baby for a single daytime feeding session, for example, you might simply fill a 4-ounce bottle with pumped milk (and freeze whatever remains from your pumping session).
Label your pumped milk with dates and ounces. For short-term storage in the refrigerator, you’ll want to ensure that the milk you serve is as fresh as possible. For long-term storage, the CDC says you can freeze breast milk for up to 12 months, though thawing and feeding it to your baby within 6 months is optimal.
Try to freeze your milk bags flat and away from the high-traffic areas of your freezer (they can break easily), ideally in a colder section to ensure longevity. Place them in chronological order so you can easily use them in that order. And if for some reason the bags should thaw (i.e., during a power outage), use them or lose them.
Babies should always have warm milk.
With milk fat clinging to bags and bottles, the more you transfer milk between containers, the less fat your baby is likely to get. “Ideally, you pump into containers you will feed from, or you transfer the milk when it’s warm and freshly pumped—which means you take your bottles to work with you, if you don’t pump directly into them,” Dr. Jones says.
If your baby has been in the NICU or has a complex medical condition, a physician may instruct you to add formula powder to your breast milk. Because you must throw away any milk left over from a bottle feeding within an hour2, Dr. Jones advises asking the physician whether the total recommended daily formula amount can be fed in one bottle (mixed with water, based on package directions) rather than split across multiple bottles.
If you are combination-feeding your baby (routinely feeding your baby both breast milk and formula), Dr. Jones advises against combining the substances—keeping bottles of breast milk completely separate from bottles of formula. The reason goes beyond reducing waste.
“The formula deactivates some of the value of the breast milk,” Dr. Jones says3. Specifically, mixing formula and breast milk can affect protein intake, as well as the milk’s ability to retain calcium, phosphorus, and zinc.
Because thawed breast milk must be consumed or thrown out within a few hours or day, depending on how you thaw it, you should be judicious about both how you thaw and how much you thaw.
There are two ways to safely thaw your frozen breast milk: in the refrigerator overnight, for use the next day; or in or under warm or lukewarm water, for more immediate use.
If you defrost a bag of breast milk in the refrigerator, it’s safe to keep it refrigerated for up to 24 hours and at room temperature for up to 2 hours. If you defrost the bag using warm water, you must feed or toss it within 2 hours.
Do not use hot water to thaw breast milk, as the excessive heat may destroy some of its nutrients and antibodies4. And never use a microwave for this purpose, either, because in addition to destroying protective properties, it can create hot spots that could burn your baby’s mouth.
There are a couple ways to tell whether your stored breast milk is no longer safe to feed your baby.
If it smells rancid or excessively sour, that’s an indication that your milk has “gone bad,” or spoiled due to chemical oxidation. There are two common reasons this happens:
Your pumped breast milk can also spoil if you are eating polyunsaturated fats or rancid fats, or drinking water with too many copper or iron ions. You can address these dietary issues by reducing your intake of polyunsaturated fatty acids (PUFAs) such as canola, vegetable, sesame, cottonseed, peanut, walnut, and flaxseed oils, along with margarine, and by drinking bottled water instead of tap water.
Regardless of the reason, when the milk becomes spoiled, it’s not safe for your baby to drink, and it must be discarded.
For some moms, however, breast milk develops a somewhat sour, soapy scent when stored because of the presence of lipase, an enzyme that helps break down fats. The lipase scent tends to increase in intensity with the amount of time stored.
Unlike oxidation, lipase doesn’t present a safety issue to feed your baby, though your little one may find the scent uninviting and refuse the milk. Instead of throwing out this milk, Dr. Jones suggests tasting it to confirm that it isn't rancid, then mixing it with freshly pumped milk or adding a drop of vanilla extract to it before feeding it to your baby.
For a deeper dive into distinguishing whether your breast milk has undergone chemical oxidation or has become impacted by lipase, see La Leche League’s article on milk issues.
Maybe you’re heading out for a date with your partner. Or maybe you’re preparing for a multiday work trip away from your baby. In either case, you likely want to leave behind some extra milk. But be careful not to create a massive stockpile of it, warns Dr. Jones.
“No one needs to pump for [their older] baby while feeding their current baby at the same time,” she says. “It is almost impossible and creates a cascade of oversupply problems for mother and baby.” (See our article on managing your supply for more on this topic.)
If you find you’re storing more pumped breast milk than you’re going to use, consider donating it. Your breast milk will need to go through a screening process to check for pathogens and viruses before milk banks accept it. The Human Milk Banking Association of North America can help you get started.
If you regularly travel away from your baby for a duration of time that makes storing it untenable—i.e., more than 24 hours—and need to pump, consider donating or shipping your pumped milk home using services such as Milk Stork.
Pregnancy is the ultimate preparation period. Just as it’s advisable during this time to explore support you’ll need to physically recover from childbirth and begin breastfeeding, it’s smart to start thinking about pumping. Even if you’re not sure when you’ll start pumping, consider this: Pumping can help you reach your breastfeeding goals.
Unless a C-section or other circumstances (usually pre-term time in the NICU or a latch issue) prevents you from establishing direct breastfeeding in the hours and days after your child’s birth, you’re not likely to start pumping until a few weeks after delivery. (And if you’re wondering whether you should pump before the baby is born, the quick and resounding answer is no.)
If you do your pump prep homework ahead of time, you can buy some peace of mind and better prepare for the curve balls that childbirth recovery might throw you. Here are our expert’s recommended steps.
Check your insurance. Some insurance providers permit pump purchases while pregnant; some require waiting until delivery. Depending on your policy’s requirements, create a plan. If you need a backup option, see if your hospital will rent you one.
Research and purchase a pump. Once you’ve sorted out the insurance details, do your research and purchase a pump (or add one to your registry!). You’ll also want to consider accessories such as bottles, flanges, inserts, and a pumping bra (yes, this is different from a nursing bra). Save your receipts for potential insurance reimbursement.
Find the right-size flanges. Pumps are one-size-fits-all, but their flanges, which should fit snugly over your breasts, come in different sizes. Using the right flange size could make or break your pumping experience; practice patience, and seek guidance from a lactation consultant, if you need it.
Prep your parts. Sterilize your pump parts right after you open your pump to prepare for your initial pumping session. You can place the flanges in boiling water for 10 minutes or run them through the dishwasher (top rack only); in most cases, you’ll be able to clean them with warm, soapy water after this first pump.
Ask for a hand pump in the hospital. These are fairly basic but good to have in situations where you need to catch milk from a letdown in one breast while breastfeeding your baby on the other, or if you don’t have your pump. They are typically billable to your insurance as part of your labor and delivery.
Get virtual, ongoing breastfeeding and baby feeding support starting as early as pregnancy to help you prepare. It’s covered by most health plans.
Secure a lactation consultant. Your OB-GYN may recommend that you secure an appointment with a lactation consultant while you’re pregnant. Before or after delivery, lactation specialists can help you identify the right flange size and give you valuable pumping guidance.
Reassess your expectations. If you’ve pumped before, how did it go? If it was painful or not always efficient, maybe the issue was flange fit. Perhaps you’d benefit from a new pump, pump parts, pump software upgrade, or lactation consultation. Baby tech evolves, as do our mind-sets and bodies. So it’s worth a fresh approach.
Learn how to express milk by hand. At some point, you might need to express milk without your baby or pump. Here’s where hand expression comes in handy! It also can help express thick colostrum1 or relieve common breast conditions such as mastitis or plugged ducts. Consult your OB-GYN before hand-expressing while pregnant, though, as it could induce labor.
1 https://firstdroplets.com/science/
You might feel the urge to start pumping within your first few postpartum weeks, thinking you need to do it to stimulate your supply and establish breastfeeding. “Chances are, you don’t,” says Dr. Laurie Jones, a pediatrician and founder of Dr. MILK (Mothers Interested in Lactation Knowledge).
Before you whip out that pump, it’s important to understand that doctors and lactation consultants recommend first-month pumping only in specific circumstances.
“You should only pump during these early weeks if this is the only way you can develop a breastfeeding relationship with your baby, which involves both establishing your supply and the baby’s latch,” Dr. Jones says.
That’s because the first seven days of your baby’s life—and the first three days in particular—are critical to getting off to a good start with breastfeeding, Dr. Jones says, and pumping might disrupt or even derail this process.
Exclusively breastfeeding in the first four weeks is the ideal way to both stimulate your supply and ensure that it’s meeting your baby’s needs, she says. Early pumping and bottle feeding, meanwhile, can lead to accidental oversupply and breast refusal.
In certain first-month situations, however, pumping can play a vital role in establishing supply and breastfeeding.
Perhaps your baby arrived preterm and is in the NICU, preventing you from direct breastfeeding on a regular schedule (or at all). Maybe your milk is delayed, or your baby has a physical latching constraint such as a tongue tie. Pumping then becomes the best tool to establish a supply, feed your baby breast milk, and hopefully set you and your baby up for future breastfeeding success.
Here’s what you need to know about how to pump to help establish breastfeeding.
Being separated from your baby due to prematurity or illness can be disorienting and even scary. It’s normal to feel a range of emotions.
When your baby is in the NICU, and a lot of things may feel out of your control, pumping can help you feel good about your contribution to your baby’s development. Even if your baby’s nurses are supplementing your breast milk with formula in a bottle, pumping can help establish your supply while providing your baby with nutrition and antibodies.
Pumping during this period “may be hard,” Dr. Jones says, because it adds some additional responsibilities. These include sterilizing your pump parts between pumping sessions, and traveling between home and the hospital while your baby is in the NICU. Not to mention worrying about your baby.
“You may be asking, ‘Why am I doing this?’” she says. “Try to remind yourself that this is critical timing to establish your supply.”
As soon as you can (and thereafter), seek as much skin-to-skin contact with your baby as possible, and ask to meet with a lactation consultant to help you and your baby secure a good latch.
When establishing breastfeeding, you might encounter issues that pertain to tongue tie or lip tie, or other physical impediments, such as illness, that make latching and breastfeeding your baby very challenging. Latch issues are particularly prevalent among premature babies in the NICU1, and pumping and bottle feeding can help you get through the latch-troubleshooting period while establishing and maintaining a supply.
If your baby has a respiratory illness such as the flu, Covid-19, or RSV, your baby may be too weak to breastfeed; pumping and bottle-feeding can also help you get through this period, such that you can resume breastfeeding, once your baby has recovered. The pumped milk itself might also help your baby recover more quickly.
“Milk will heal [babies] while you’re holding them and feeding them,” Dr. Jones says. “You are the pharmacy.”
Between 30 percent and 40 percent of first-time moms experience a milk delay. This is clinically defined as 72 or more postpartum hours before the production and release of transitional breast milk, which is thinner and whiter in consistency than the initial colostrum breasts release.
To get things going and establish a supply, you may need to pump.
“Ideally, you’d continue attempting to directly breastfeed to speed this up, but if it hurts to nurse, or there’s edema [swelling as a result of excess fluid], or you don’t have help, the only pain-free way to get milk out is through hand expression or pumping,” Dr. Jones says.
If your breasts do not feel more full and heavy by the end of your newborn’s third day or the start of the fourth, talk to your doctor or lactation consultant, get your baby weighed, and decide if you need a medical intervention with bottle feeding until your milk comes in.
It’s not uncommon for you to require medical assistance after delivery for issues such as high blood pressure, a uterine infection, or gallstones. You should have access to a hospital-grade pump, but because all U.S. labor and delivery units have manual pumps, you can ask for one as a backup.
If you are pumping to establish breastfeeding, you’ll want to make sure that you don’t develop an oversupply of breast milk. When you have an oversupply, the amount of breast milk you are producing exceeds your baby’s (or babies’) needs.
Oversupply can put you at risk for engorgement, mastitis, and/or plugged ducts. And because pumping stimulates production, pumping too often leads to oversupply.
If you are experiencing engorgement and are stockpiling pumped milk in your freezer, you probably have an oversupply. It’s time to work on spacing out your pumping sessions a bit more.
“Feed the baby, not the freezer,” Dr. Jones says.
When pumping during the first postpartum month, it’s easy to inadvertently slip into exclusive pumping. Your baby may develop a preference for the faster, more consistent flow of the bottle nipple—and refuse to latch.
If exclusive pumping suits you and your baby, that’s fine. But if your goal is to directly breastfeed, make sure that you’re getting the support you need from a lactation consultant to establish a latch and healthy breastfeeding routine when ready, thus avoiding exclusive pumping.
If you have an undersupply of breast milk—your milk is delayed, your supply isn’t well established, or your baby is underweight or too weak to breastfeed—your physician might encourage you to engage in “triple feeding.”
The three sequential elements of triple feeding: breastfeed, pump, then bottle-feed, and repeat 8 to 10 times a day, during the daylight hours. This intensive practice helps increase your supply while giving your baby vital nutrients.
Please note: Our experts caution that triple feeding should be undertaken only with medical guidance, and only for a short period of time, to accomplish specific feeding goals. It's a temporary stopgap measure to get your supply and/or your baby's weight to a healthy, workable level, Dr. Jones says. “It’s not tenable to do this around the clock, or for long periods of time.”
Dr. Jones advises first-time pump users who need to pump during the first few postpartum days to initially use hospital-grade pumps. Once you’ve established a supply, she says, it’s safe to switch to another type of pump. Just note that even if you went through the exercise of preparing to pump while pregnant and making sure that your flanges fit properly, the fit can change at various intervals, including just after delivery.
If you are an inexperienced pump user, and the fit isn’t going well, Dr. Jones says you should be prepared to remeasure, swap out those flanges, and make whichever adjustments necessary to fully empty your breasts of milk while pumping. “When your baby is 5 days old,” and you are still exclusively pumping, you cannot risk 12 hours of poor emptying,” she says.
It’s worth noting that most pumps (including Willow's) typically involve a bit of a learning curve to ensure that your flanges fit properly and that you’re fully emptying your breasts— especially if you’re a first-time pumper.
At some point during your baby’s first month of life, if direct breastfeeding is taking a backseat to establishing supply through pumping, your baby might briefly need to supplement your breast milk with formula. (This is often the case with preemies in the NICU.)
“It can be a medically necessary tool for a baby who’s lost excessive weight in the first five days—and if the milk supply isn’t copious right away,” Dr. Jones says. “It doesn’t, however, rule out direct breastfeeding.”
Exclusive pumping is often treated as a temporary intervention to help a newborn get healthy and ready to breastfeed—sometimes for a few days, sometimes for several weeks. Past this point, you can continue pumping while potentially moving toward a more “direct-breastfeeding relationship, and use a professional to help you wean off the pump,” Dr. Jones says.
You will likely recalibrate your breastfeeding targets at several intervals—and for many moms, the baby’s departure from the NICU, combined with a newfound ability to directly breastfeed, is an important one. While some moms manage to shift to exclusive direct breastfeeding after this early period of exclusive pumping, others shelf their pumps while developing a good breastfeeding rhythm with their baby, then move to a combination of pumping and direct breastfeeding when their little one is 4 to 6 weeks old.
By the time your baby is about a month old, you and your baby have hopefully gotten into a good breastfeeding rhythm—and you’re hopefully getting just enough sleep.
Most pediatricians and lactation consultants recommend waiting until now (or a couple weeks from now) before starting to use a breast pump and introducing a bottle. This is because exclusively breastfeeding during the first four to six weeks of your baby’s life helps you establish an appropriate milk supply while developing a good sense for your baby’s hunger and satiation cues.
Like breastfeeding, pumping and bottle-feeding don’t necessarily come naturally. Although they might not seem daunting, everyone has a learning curve!
If you’ve been exclusively breastfeeding until now, the idea of beginning a whole new feeding process might feel overwhelming, and we get it: There’s a lot to it! But hear us out. Pumping can offer you a tremendous amount of flexibility and support with who feeds your baby—along with when and where.
If you’re soon returning to a baby-free workplace and plan to continue breastfeeding, pumping is essential. But even if you just want to have the flexibility to spend a morning or afternoon away from your baby, pumping can help you maintain your supply while feeding your baby breast milk.
Your partner (or another family member) can take a more active role in feeding your baby, which creates great opportunities for closeness, cuddles, and bonding.
Depending on your milk storage capacity, you might be able to enlist your partner (or someone else in your life) in a night feed so you can get more sleep.
This is the ideal time to introduce a bottle; if you wait too long, you might have more resistance from your baby, which would make it more difficult to integrate bottle feeding into your feeding goals.
It’ll enable you to claim some time for yourself, whether it’s an outing with friends, date night, or a solo afternoon stroll.
You can get in some low-stakes practice before returning to the office, if that’s your plan. (Pediatrician Dr. Laurie Jones says a two-week introduction is ideal.)
Even if you can’t envision how pumping and bottle-feeding might work out for you and your baby, these are all great reasons to start now. Just pumping a little bit—once a day, or once every few days—can help you get the hang of it.
Check the size of your flange: You want to make sure this crucial pump part isn’t too big or small, as your nipples may be different sizes from the last time you measured. This is normal!
Take it slow, if you want: Unless you’re already heading back to the office full-time, you don’t have to start pumping with any regularity or frequency. For example, you may start with once a week or once every couple of days. This makes it easier to incorporate the practice into your routine without a lot of extra stress.
Don’t stress about making a milk stash: You might be tempted, once you start pumping, to develop a freezer stash of breast milk. A small stash is fine, especially if heading back to the office soon, but a large one is indicative of oversupply.
When it’s time to bring on the bottle, it’s ideal to have someone else make the introduction while you step away. It’s also key to practice paced feedings, using the same slow-flow nipple every time. See our tips on handling bottle refusal, if your baby shows a preference to the breast.
If you aren’t going back to the office, giving yourself the opportunity for a breastfeeding break is a perfectly valid reason to pump. This is your choice, and you shouldn’t feel an ounce of guilt.
“You don't have to justify any feeding decisions to anyone," Dr. Jones says.
Pumping and bottle feeding can offer you a way to distribute the feeding responsibilities and thus a shift in flexibility. It can help you balance your baby time with your “me” time.
At one point or another, you may need to be away from your baby for an extended period of time. Whether spending long hours in the office or traveling by air, you’ll likely need to pump in public at some point to empty your breasts, feed your baby, or just maintain your supply. While this may make you feel a little exposed, rest assured that you’re legally protected.
If you gave birth to multiples, you know how tricky feeding times can be. Pumping and bottle-feeding can provide you with flexibility around how and when you feed—and who else can feed your babies. This includes giving you the opportunity to breastfeed one baby at a time. (You can pump from the other breast simultaneously, then have a partner or caretaker bottle-feed).
If you’ve been tandem feeding, introducing a pump can give you a break from that process. And just remember: Any amount of breast milk you can give to your babies is beneficial, so if you’re nursing and supplementing with formula, that’s great.
Of course, if you have any questions about pumping at this (or any) stage of the game, or you’re just not sure how something’s going or if you’re doing “the right thing,” feel free to ask your provider or lactation consultant for expert input.
When it comes to planning your approach to pumping, there’s no one-size-fits-all schedule. While the most important guidance applies across the board—that you pump enough for your baby to get the volume they need for however long you’re apart—your pumping schedule will be unique to you and your circumstances.
This means it’ll change as your circumstances change. But establishing a pumping schedule can help you control how pumping fits into your daily routine, as well as block off time on your schedule to pump, thus protecting your pumping sessions from disruptions.
How much milk does my baby need per feed?
While your baby’s milk needs increase over the first month, they then reach a steady state that lasts throughout the first 6 months—and even dips between 6 and 12 months as solids are introduced.
At first, babies only need 1-ounce feeds. That gradually increases to 3-ounce feeds as breastfeeding is established in the first four weeks, and then roughly 4-ounce feeds totaling 25 to 30 ounces of breastmilk a day between 1 and 6 months. By your baby’s first birthday, due to the inclusion of solids, total daily milk needs drop to 16 to 18 ounces a day.
What scenario are you pumping for?
Pumping can be used to accommodate a wide range of scenarios. Think through your own circumstances and goals to determine how best to approach pumping, and know that this will likely change over time.
Once you’ve established a good breastfeeding routine over the course of your baby’s first month of life, pump right after your typical morning breastfeeding session.
“This morning feeding has the largest amount of milk sitting in the breasts, after your baby’s longest stretch of sleep at night,” says pediatrician Dr. Laura Jones.
This pumping session will help you store a small volume of milk—1 to 2 ounces—that won’t impact your supply for the next feeding. And whether you add this session every morning or just occasionally, you’ll accumulate a small freezer stash over time that another caregiver can thaw for bottle feedings.
Sample schedule:
As with pumping for the occasional afternoon out, Dr. Jones advises pumping immediately after your first breastfeeding session of the day. The difference is you’ll do this every day for two weeks before your return to work. You can use an ounce for a practice bottle a couple times and freeze the rest.
By pumping somewhere between 1 to 3 ounces of milk per day for 14 days, you should be able to stash about 20 ounces—which should be enough for two full work days—while still balancing your baby’s daily needs and avoiding stimulating an oversupply of breast milk, Dr. Jones says.
Sample schedule:
Your goal is to pump enough while at work to provide that for a future shift apart—ideally 1 to 1.25 ounces of milk for every hour apart. This equation can help you calculate how much milk you should be pumping both in a given session and for the duration of your time apart.
If, say, you work 8 hours a day and are apart for 10 hours when factoring in commutes, and your baby is older than 4 weeks, try to pump 10 to 12 ounces during that time. And if you’re pumping every 3 hours, you’ll ideally get somewhere between 3 and 3.75 ounces of milk each session.
When it comes to timing, pump at the times that work best for you, and don’t worry too much about it being right at your baby’s typical feeding times. Building in flexibility around these chunks of time should generally be fine for maintaining your supply.
Over time you might be able to shift to two pumping sessions per day based on your personal breast storage capacity and what volume of solids your baby eats. At around 10 to 12 months, some people can even get away with pumping just once midday.
There are special circumstances for exclusive pumping, and they don’t rule out combination feeding or even exclusive breastfeeding later.
In the early days, this might mean pumping at 7 a.m. and 10 a.m., then again at 1 p.m., 4 p.m., 6 p.m., and 9 p.m., and pumping overnight at midnight and 4 a.m. (Yes, it’s a grind, but this is just in the early weeks while you’re establishing your supply.)
Once you’ve established your supply and are ready to pump less frequently, you can start by removing the nighttime pumping sessions from your schedule (and hopefully replace them with sleep!). Pay attention to the times of day when your supply naturally starts to dip. The lower-output pumping sessions are the next ones to eliminate from your schedule.
This exclusive-pumping schedule can help you think through your routine.
How to address potential issues
If you find that you are not pumping enough milk during the day, add an evening pumping session. “I like a power pump before bedtime: 10 minutes on, 10 minutes off, repeated up to three times, while reading in bed or watching TV,” Dr. Jones says.
Exclusive pumping simply means feeding your baby the breast milk you’ve pumped without directly breastfeeding or supplementing with formula. This involves pumping at regular intervals throughout the day (or on demand), with at least one pumping session at night to maintain your supply.
The reality is that exclusive breastfeeding and exclusive pumping occupy two ends of the breastfeeding spectrum. Many people fall somewhere in the middle, and do a combination throughout their journey of direct breastfeeding, pumping, and sometimes supplementing with formula. There are many reasons why you might choose to exclusively pump, and there are many ways you might end up exclusively pumping by accident. If you’re considering—or for whatever reason find yourself—exclusively pumping, here’s how to get the most out of it.
Let’s not beat around the bush: Exclusive pumping is a lot of work. (And let’s also acknowledge that no matter how you feed your baby—direct breastfeeding, pumping, making formula—you may encounter challenges. It’s important to give yourself grace in the face of these challenges.)
First, pumping has a learning curve. It can take several tries before you find the right flange fit and establish an ideal pumping environment. You might also need to take some deep breaths and meditate to get into the right mind-set for pump-stimulated milk letdowns. (They aren’t the same as baby-stimulated ones!)
Exclusive pumping requires regularly cleaning your pump parts and bottles. If your baby has a compromised immune system, you need to sanitize them between each pumping session. Otherwise, you can save yourself a little time and effort by keeping extra parts for your Willow Go and Willow 360. Rinse after each use, and then batch clean and dry them once a day. In between daily sessions, store milk in a refrigerator or cooler bag with an ice pack.
Exclusive pumping also requires paying close attention to your baby’s hunger cues so you can ensure that you’re establishing a good milk supply alongside a good pumping schedule. That’s because breast milk production is something babies regulate by spending a lot of time at the breast. It might feel like a guessing game at first, but over time, you’ll learn their language—including lip licking, fussing, putting their hands in their mouths, fidgeting, and showing a loss of interest.
Eventually, your pumping sessions should become easier—and mobile and multitasking, with your wearable pump. You can think of it as the pumping version of wearing your baby while nursing.
One of the top concerns about exclusive pumping pertains to bonding with your baby. While direct breastfeeding provides regular opportunities to go skin-to-skin, make eye contact, cuddle, and more, those precious moments can happen outside of breastfeeding—and don’t automatically happen when nursing.
The bottom line is that bonding is intentional. Try wearing your baby, reading and singing to your baby, and taking baths together, and remember that other people are able to bond with your baby without direct breastfeeding as well!
Another top concern is meeting your baby’s feeding needs. Just remember that the best way to match supply with demand without pumping too much or too little milk is to watch babies’ feeding cues closely and pump every time they take a bottle. (This may require cluster pumping, as well as doing your best to get second and even third letdowns each pumping session to more closely mimic direct breastfeeding and remove as much milk as possible.)
Traveling while exclusively pumping can present logistical hurdles as well. You’ll need to pack your pump(s), cleaning supplies, bottles, milk bags, a stash of milk if your baby is with you, and a cooler with freezer packs, plus find sanitary places to pump. You might need to advocate for yourself and educate others, including TSA agents, about your rights as a breastfeeding traveler.
And while exclusive pumping isn’t necessarily more expensive than combination feeding, it does involve potentially more gear than exclusive breastfeeding. If navigating insurance coverage and FSAs feels daunting, we’ve pulled together a list of questions to ask your provider to ensure that you’re getting the most out of your plan.
Finally, make sure that you’re getting the support you need throughout your pumping journey, including looking after your mental health, advocating for postpartum support, and learning where to go for lactation support.
While exclusive pumping can involve a lot of planning, cleaning, and sheer determination, some say it also has a unique set of perks—like skipping the phase where your baby bites your nipples!
Exclusive pumping also enables you to know—and even track—how much milk you’re producing and feeding your baby, from one session to the next, as well as over longer stretches of time. (Although some parents find tracking their pumped ounces reassuring, Dr. Laurie Jones, a pediatrician, warns that tracking can become a “booby trap” for moms who want to continue breastfeeding. It can lead to accidental exclusive pumping, she says.)
No matter the cause(s) or reason(s) for exclusive pumping, if you find yourself doing it, you can feel proud that you’ve worked hard to give your baby the gift of your milk.
Using a bottle to feed your baby can be a real game changer. Bottle feeding, in tandem with pumping, brings flexibility to how, when, and where your baby eats—not to mention who is able to help with the feeding.
Bottle feeding can be implemented in myriad ways, but it takes a little education, planning and, often, persistence. If strategically (and successfully) implemented, bottle feeding can support your efforts to continue breastfeeding. And if you find yourself in situations in which direct breastfeeding is difficult or even impossible, bottle feeding enables you to continue providing your baby breast milk.
To help guide you through this journey, check out our tactical tips on how to introduce a bottle, what to do if your baby refuses to take one, and best practices for managing bottle feeding, once established.
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Try these strategies to help your baby learn to take a bottle.
If you’re planning to return to work and want to leave breast milk and bottles with a caregiver, wait until your baby is 4 to 6 weeks old, if possible, after establishing breastfeeding. Then start with just one bottle, once a day, to reduce the risk of your baby refusing the breast in favor of the bottle’s regular (and typically faster) flow.
Babies can differentiate between a bottle and breast. Many initially prefer the breast and are more receptive to bottles offered by someone else—not least because they can smell you. Ask your partner or another caregiver to give the initial bottle. Set the expectation that your baby may refuse it, which can be very challenging to hear and manage. Then leave.
Try to have your caretaker offer the bottle while your baby is awake and alert, such as immediately after a nap.
Offer freshly pumped breast milk for this initial bottle. Your baby may initially refuse older (or colder) milk. To minimize waste, have your partner or caregiver offer that first bottle of milk in small, half-ounce increments.
Introduce just one type of nipple (ideally a slow-flow nipple) and bottle, and keep using them throughout your infant’s bottle-feeding journey. Consistency increases your odds for success—and reduces your costs and risks of gear frustration and confusion.
Just before introducing the bottle, have your caregiver place a few drops of your pumped milk on the bottle’s nipple. Offer the nipple so your baby can taste it, then rub the bottle’s nipple on your baby’s lips to prompt your baby to latch onto it.
It can take time for a baby who’s been exclusively breastfeeding to accept and adjust to bottle feeding. Don’t expect it to happen on the first try. The introduction process can be stressful—caregivers may find prolonged periods of crying or fussing challenging—but with patience and persistence, your baby will eventually take a bottle.
Once your baby is regularly bottle feeding from others, give it a try yourself. (This can also present time-consuming challenges.) Try feeding the bottle with your baby’s cheek in a location and position that your baby associates with breastfeeding. This may help your baby develop a positive association with bottle feeding from you.
If you’ve heard of (or perhaps experienced) bottle refusal, pediatrician Dr. Laurie Jones, founder of Dr. MILK (Mothers Interested in Lactation Knowledge), has several tips to help manage it. She says your baby’s willingness to take a bottle is more about personality than timing—some babies just prefer the breast. Success, then, depends less on the type of bottle than on the caregiver’s patience, consistency, and persistence.
The good news? Even the most stubborn bottle refusers will eventually figure it out—or learn to use a cup.
Once your baby has learned to take a bottle, you’ll likely want to avoid both overfeeding and breast refusal. Maintaining breastfeeding while bottle feeding involves using a slow-flow nipple, pacing your feeds so they mimic that of direct breastfeeding, and keeping an eye on your daily ratio of bottle-feeding to breastfeeding sessions.
One popular idea is that introducing a bottle early will cause “nipple confusion.” The term implies that your baby can become confused (and picky) about nipple types.
That’s not exactly accurate, Dr. Jones says. “We try not to say ‘nipple confusion’ anymore because it’s actually flow preference—and that’s the very real enemy of direct breastfeeding.
With anywhere from two to nine milk ejections and 1- to 2-minute pauses between each burst, a breast nipple typically has a lower, slower, and less consistent flow than a bottle nipple. Babies learn to stay on the breast until their needs are met, even through the lulls between bursts, because they know that more milk will come with persistence and patience. A bottle, on the other hand, is faster and easier: Your baby has to work much less to get the milk.
As your baby learns to alternate feedings between the breast and bottle, try to ensure that the number of daily breastfeeding sessions matches or exceeds the number of daily bottle-feeding sessions. This is important because every baby has a tipping point at which flow preference takes over, and many babies begin to prefer the regular, faster flow of the bottle to the breast.
“If the number of bottles is more than the number of direct feeds, the baby may self-wean and refuse the breast because it's just easier to bottle-feed,” Dr. Jones says. (If this happens to you, you may find yourself becoming an exclusive pumper. If you’d like to continue directly breastfeeding to some extent, check out Dr. Jones’ tips on how to avoid accidental exclusive pumping.)
Just as with breastfeeding, it’s important to pay attention to your baby when bottle feeding. Go slowly, make eye contact, closely hold your baby, and aim to match the pace of the bottle’s nipple flow to your own through a method called “paced bottle feeding,” Dr. Jones advises.
This involves using a slow-flow nipple and stopping periodically, bending and tugging the nipple gently to mimic the natural lulls between letdowns. Maintaining a slower and periodically interrupted flow can have a positive impact on a baby’s health.
“Paced feeding is always a good idea to prevent obesity and overfeeding, and to allow for breathing and coordination of swallowing for younger
A slow-flow nipple is crucial because it offers (and requires) the closest resemblance in flow and effort to direct breastfeeding. If you hope to continue direct breastfeeding, don’t be tempted to switch to a higher-flow nipple, despite what other people may recommend. And keep in mind that even older babies can learn to prefer a faster-flowing nipple to breastfeeding.
“Breasts don’t flow faster over time, so the slow flow-nipple is the one to stay with,” Dr. Jones says.
Dr. Jones says caregivers tend to have “volume norms,” from their own experiences. So it’s important, she says, to ensure that your baby’s caregivers will help give paced feedings.
“Many child care centers are not breastfeeding-friendly and just need some education to protect your feeding goals,” Dr. Jones says. “Have a conversation with them, and share with them how you’d like them to feed your baby.”
When breastfeeding, babies tend to release their latch (or just stop sucking) when they aren’t hungry anymore, but the cues for satiety during bottle feeding aren’t quite as clear, Dr. Jones says. Babies are more likely to continue feeding beyond this point when being fed a bottle—even though the amount they need in a given feeding doesn’t actually change much as they grow.
One study of more than 16,000 babies found that 75 percent will demand more volume over time, if consistently fed bottles beyond satiation.
“Breast milk’s caloric density doesn’t change over time, but the number of calories your baby needs to grow over time goes down, the older they are,” Dr. Jones says. In other words, the caloric burn goes down while the volume stays roughly the same.
Keep in mind, Dr. Jones says, that a breastfed baby typically needs 3 to 4 ounces per feed. Don’t be confused by those larger bottles; your friend’s exclusively formula-fed baby may be consuming more volume than your baby. That’s because breast milk and formula are metabolized differently; formula-fed babies use the nutrients in formula less efficiently.
“Any feeding that is controlled by an adult creates potential for overfeeding,” Dr. Jones says. “We never know if they were lonely, thirsty, hungry, or just wanted to be picked up. Infants will take a bottle, even when they are not physiologically hungry.”
Just like the pump, the bottle is a tool. With patience and practice, and an awareness of the ways a bottle can change the course of your breastfeeding journey, you can use this tool to your advantage as you focus on accomplishing your feeding goals. Just remember to be patient with your baby and yourself. There are many learning curves, and you’re doing the best you can with the tools you have.